ABOUT ME

Hi, and welcome, I’m Laura. I’m really glad you’re here. Thanks for taking a moment to stop by.

We might not have the same story, but I’m guessing we’ve felt some of the same pain. Before I got clean from my drug of choice, cocaine, more than thirty years ago, I was living a life that felt normal at the time: drive-bys, police raids, living in a trap house, and getting held at gunpoint. Twice. (Apparently, once wasn’t enough for me to realize it was time to pack up and get the F out.)

I also lost people I loved, and experienced mental, physical, and sexual abuse from a young age. I’ve been in relationships with addicts, some in recovery, some not, and those experiences shaped the way I saw myself, for a long time.

My husband and I have been married for twenty years. He’s been sober from his pornography addiction for over a decade. So yep, that means he was actively struggling for part of our marriage. The thing is, neither of us realized it was an addiction until it was too late. It all happened fast. Too fast. Think of the frog in the water story.

When his addiction came to light, I experienced betrayal trauma. That kicked off a whole new level of healing from my own past (hello, terrifying). But honestly? Doing that work was the best decision I’ve ever made. It led me to therapy, emotional sobriety, and to building this space. It did the same for my husband, too.

And it’s helped me see both sides of recovery and healing: the addict’s experience, and the loved one’s.

I’m grateful every day to be clean from my drug of choice, and that gratitude drives me to give back to others who are still in it. I’ve made plenty of mistakes (and talk about them often) because if sharing my screw-ups can save you some pain or time, it’s worth it.